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Happy New Year!

We've reached 2016, and I'm glad. Last year was hard on me. I can honestly say that there were some losses that I didn't expect, some I did, and some I hoped wouldn't happen. And after that, I'm still standing.

Between TMFKATO and New Boo, I didn't know if my heart would ever be whole again. Honestly, I still don't. But both relationships taught me about who I am, what I want, and how to handle myself if I ever get them. They also taught me what NOT to do, and that's undervalue or underestimate myself. Now I know -- beyond the shadow of a doubt - what I can and can't take in these situations.

I now understand why people do what they do. I finally felt my own heart expand beyond its boundaries only to slapped back to reality. Now I get it. It was a painful lesson -- one that I don't wish on anyone.

Running from your problems won't necessarily solve them. All it does is make it easier for you to avoid them. Sometimes that's necessary to think a thing through. But at the end of the day, your problem goes with you no matter what locale you're in.

I'm older. And while that's inevitable if you keep living, it's something I'm coming to grips with -- even as we speak. And I'm thankful.

Like I said, I made it out. Now we're on to new beginnings.

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